School and a bath

Again a story told and retold.

My grandmother Aaji had given Deepali who was born a nice bath, and an oil massage. Vaishutai was ready for school, and was waiting for her school ride.

Vaishutai wanted to hold Deepali, and Aaji let her. And Aaji also playfully told baby Deepali to poop. Baby Deepali apparently did so (no diaper in those days), and Vaishutai had to change and bathe and was late for school.

This was ofcourse lovingly told, and laughed about.

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